If you are one of the countless people who are currently investing blood, sweat, and tears in hopes of achieving your dreams, you are not alone. Not a day goes by that I don’t experience a solid moment of doubt or fear regarding the lofty goals I have set for myself. It’s pretty uncomfortable at times, but it isn’t an excuse to stop doing the things I know I’m meant to do.
The same goes for you.
It may sometimes feel as though the universe has nothing else better to do with itself than sit around pondering ways to trip you up, screw up your plans, and make you downright miserable. Doors may be slamming (not even gently closing!) in your face at every turn. Days may be turning into weeks, and weeks may be turning into years. Perhaps you have heard the word “no” so many times that you are actually starting to respond to it as though it is your name.
Well, fear not, my failure-acquainted friends. There is light at the end of this seemingly endless tunnel… probably. I mean, I don’t actually know that there’s a light. Perhaps I’ve been stumbling around in the dark so long that I’m starting to simply see a mirage of light. Is that even a thing? Darkness induced mirages? At any rate, I’m fairly confident that we can’t continue to fail indefinitely. After all, the only real failure in life is a failure to try.
Too corny? Sorry.
I’m serious though! Never give up on your dreams. Rejection is but a scratch to the ego that stings for awhile. Regret, however, can kill the soul.
And you thought I was corny. Pfft! Grab your floaties and pool noodles, kids… we’re gettin’ deep. 😛
Anyway, if a door of opportunity closes or refuses to be crowbarred open, leave it be. It probably leads down a road you have no business being on anyway. Usually, it will be clear as crystal when an opportunity is right for you.
First of all, it won’t be accompanied by a resounding “no” (lol).
Secondly, events will unfold organically. You won’t have to beg anyone or sell your soul or trade your firstborn to some weirdo named Rumpelstiltskin (Not even gonna lie– I had to “google” that one). Things will simply align for you. You’ll be in the right place at the right time and bada bing, bada boom… you’ll have arrived.
So, don’t be afraid to hear the word “no”. It doesn’t mean that the sky is falling or that your life is inexplicably (and embarrassingly) over. It simply means that whoever you were trying to get approval from is a tacky loser with no taste.
No, no, no… that isn’t right at all. I’m sorry. I by no means advocate calling people “losers”, so let’s not get into the habit of that. It’s just that I often try to write the first thing that comes to mind (Self-censorship? Who needs it!), and well, as you can see I apparently have a prepubescent girl living in my head. (Not to mention, it greatly amused me.)
But you know what I’m trying to say, right? Tell yourself whatever you need to in order to laugh it off, keep your head up, and try again. It can be hard to stay positive and motivated when you feel as though you aren’t getting anywhere. If you have to poke a little fun at the situation you’re in to keep things moving, do it.
And always remember: All you need is one. If you’re looking for a job, you don’t need every job you’ve spent 1.5 hours each applying for– you only need one. If you’re in the dating game and you’d prefer not to be single, you don’t need every catfish and looney toon from the dating app you’re on– you only need one (lol). Wanna go viral? All it takes is one post… the right one, sure, but one nonetheless.
Things can literally change overnight for you. Just one moment of attention from the right person at the right time can make all the difference, but you’ve got to keep playing to win.
If other people aren’t supporting you… So what? Keep going.
If other people think you’re being ‘unrealistic’… Who cares? Keep going.
And if other people think you’re just downright weird like that Rumpelstiltskin guy… Be weird and keep going!
(Just don’t steal anyone’s baby because that’s, like, really illegal.) 🙈🤷🏽♀️
Have you ever gone through a season of “no” and survived to tell the tale? What tips and tricks helped you climb out of the rut? Feel free to share your opinions and comments down below!
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