So… I’ve been absent from here for awhile lately. I’m truly sorry for that. 

I’ve made several attempts to peck out something or another, but my efforts have all ended with a retreat to the delete button. My most recent deletion was a detailed explanation that I decided was far too lengthy for its own good. Extremely long story short, there has been a lot of change in my life lately. Though I am quite thrilled about these changes, they have left me needing a lot more “me time”, which is a major reason for my silence.

No one told me to go rampaging through my life with a sledgehammer, but that’s essentially what I’ve done. In addition to adopting many new habits and undergoing a somewhat drastic change in appearance, I’ve been trying to rearrange my daily schedule. Well, all of this hustle and bustle has left me rather drained at the end of each day. I’m used to doing my writing late at night, but I simply haven’t had the energy to stay up long enough lately.

I sincerely hope to return to my (somewhat) daily posts soon, but I make no promises as to when! There are so many things that I’d like to share right now. However, I feel the need to take a bit of a step back for awhile. 

Although I am adjusting well to everything that is going on, I still feel emotionally taxed at times. I’ve never really gone through a period of time such as this, so it is rather difficult to describe it. Though I am perfectly content with life (despite the tone of my last poem), I admittedly lack the concentration I need to write coherently.

Anyhow, I’m not here to talk about all of this. Not yet, at least! Today, I’d like to talk about one of the changes I’ve recently made: I got a new kitten! 

Meet Chi! I adopted this adorable little guy three nights ago. Although I have been thinking about getting my big girl a little playmate for the last two years or so, my desire to finally make the leap came out of the blue. Hasty decision or not, I’m extremely pleased by the recent addition to my family.

Chi is the sweetest little boy in the world. He is almost too sweet though. I mean, he never wants to be put down! At twelve weeks old, he’s extremely playful and bright. I have had so much fun playing with him and teaching him the rules of the house. Perfectly well behaved and good natured, he matches my mellow spirit better than I could have imagined.

The funny thing about Chi is that I had originally named him Aria. Of course, Aria is traditionally a girl’s name. You may be wondering why I would have given a feminine name to a male cat. Well, that’s because he was supposed to be a she! I had specifically requested a female cat, so the woman at the adoption center pulled out all of the girl kittens they had available— along with Chi! Upon observing all of the kittens playing together, Chi’s lovely personality caught my eye. Little did I know that he was a male! 

It was only after fastening a frilly pearl adorned collar around his neck and calling him “Aria” all night that I noticed their mistake. His adoption folder contained a little information card that clearly specified his proper gender. Mortified, I picked him up to confirm this shocking revelation. Sure enough, he was NOT female (lol)! 

Part of me was disappointed that he wasn’t the little girl cat I had desired, but he was so cuddly and loving that I no longer cared. Perhaps it was my fault for having taken the adoption center’s word at face value, but how was I supposed to know?! 

Even after catching wind that he might be a boy, I still wasn’t perfectly confident that it was true until I watched a Youtube video that described what to look for. Besides, it’s not as though I make it a habit to go around lifting up cats’ “skirts” to see what gender they are. 😀 




Confusion aside, I love my little Chi to pieces. I just wish his “big sister” shared my gushing view of him. Cami, my ten-year old marshmallow lookalike (I swear she looks exactly like something you’d make a S’more with– you can see for yourself in my previous 100 favorite things post), HATES HIS GUTS. 

Oh my gosh, you guys… I knew introducing a new kitten to an adult cat could be challenging, but geeze Louise! The hellish task of integrating Chi into the household has left me exhausted. Cami has made it her life mission to hiss, growl and mutter under her breath in Chi’s direction until he leaves—forever.

Cami is extremely possessive of me and has actually never been around any other animals since I adopted her six years ago. Aside from an odd encounter with a stray cat or two through a sliding glass door, she really has no frame of reference for how to behave around other members of her own species. I’m actually convinced she believes herself to be human. This being the case, I’ve been very careful to ensure that Chi is never left alone with her. 

While Cami is normally a very sweet and loving cat towards me, I am concerned about allowing Chi to come face to face with her on his own. Things have progressed in the right direction since the first night Chi came to live with us, but Cami still detests being within close proximity to her tiny counterpart. Whenever Chi is placed on the ground (even several feet away from her), Cami hisses and growls. I gently scold her for her unwelcoming behavior, which causes her to slink away in shame (lol). However, Cami is far too social to ever stay away for long. 

I’m not really sure what to do at this point. I’ve tried positive reinforcement, separation, etc. Keeping the two cats separated has become quite tiring as I am used to Cami having free reign of the entire house. There is simply no way that Chi can freely roam the home with Cami loose, so I have been leading him around on his leash, holding him or keeping him completely confined to one or two rooms.

It’s really a shame that Cami hasn’t warmed up to Chi more because he absolutely loves her already. Her hissing doesn’t seem to bother him in the least. I don’t know if he thinks she is his mother or what, but he goes ape nuts every time he sees her. He wriggles and meows uncontrollably in an effort to get down and rush up to her.

I’m not particularly sure what Chi would do if he were allowed to approach her, but it seems as though Cami is concerned about this as well. He’s hardly aggressive, so I imagine he just wants to cuddle with her. With any luck, Cami will stop hissing long enough for me to find out.

All in all, this entire experience has had me second guessing my desire for multiple children (lol)! I truthfully believe that it would hurt my feelings to have an older child shun a new baby in the same manner that Cami has rejected Chi. Sure, cats are cats and children are children. They aren’t exactly the same at all. However, I know some children can be quite jealous and disagreeable once a younger sibling steps on the scene. 


I really hope my children fall in love with each other from the get go and never, ever fight. Pfft! If that’s how unrealistic I am about things, perhaps I should stick to raising cats! 😀


Have you ever had to introduce a new pet into the home? How did it go? Might you have some tips and tricks to help me get my two fur balls to be the best friends I had hoped they’d be? I’d love to hear your experiences and suggestions, so please feel free to comment down below. 
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Written by nellsinaeternum

Just a girl lost in a daydream who is trying her best to color inside of the lines like everyone else, but is finding the act of smearing watercolor outside of the lines much, much more enjoyable.

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